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Guidelines to Dressing

Bismillah ar rahman ar raheem, alhamdulillahi rabil alameen, wa salatu wa salam ala nabiyyina Muhammad, wa ala alahi wa ashabihi ajmaeen, wa b’ad:

From one of the most confusing affairs to the common Muslim is the guidelines of how he or she should dress, in front of the opposite gender and/or in front of the same gender. We hope to clarify this with the following short treatise.

We will begin with the guidelines concerning men, as Allah began many of his verses and commands with them, and as they are the heads of the household and will most likely have to enforce these guidelines.

Firstly, we must understand that the man has different levels of what he must cover (the following is the minimum required):

  1. In front of others, whether they be family or strangers, and this consists of 3 levels:
    i. During prayer – this is the highest level of covering, and from the wisdom behind it is that we are standing in front of our creator and should be in the most humbling and up kept position. This involves covering from the navel to the knee (not including either, so the navel nor the knee must be covered) and both shoulders.
    Outside of prayer – this is of two levels:
    ii. “Light” Awrah – this is from the navel to the knee (not including either).
    iii. “Heavy” Awrah – this is the two private areas.
  2. In front of his spouse – there is no specified area that must be covered in front of her.

Secondly, concerning the “light” and “heavy” awrahs, then a person may expose his thighs to others if there is a call for it, but the safest way is to remain as covered as possible. This is because shyness is a part of eeman, and there are a number of texts that praise the ones who have the most shyness.

From those texts are those that talk about Allah’s prophet Musa -alaihi as salam- and others that talk about Uthman -radaialho anhu-. Other texts include those that talk about the personality of the Prophet -salalahu alaihi wa salam- and how he remained as covered as possible in most instances.

Concerning women, the matter has more subdivisions and from them:

  1. In front of maharim (male blood relatives who a woman is ineligible to marry (i.e. father, brother, son), or male relatives from breast feeding (the son of a woman who has breastfed a woman (i.e. her milk brother)) or via marriage (i.e. husband or father-in-law)).
    i. She must cover from the navel to the knee and whatever the local customs demand(1). The female companions -radailahu anhuna- of the Prophet -salalahu alaihi wa salam- used to make wudu in front of maharim, and it is not narrated that they uncovered more than that.
  2. In front of other women.
    i. From the navel to the knee (which also consists of “light” and “heavy”) and whatever the local customs demand. These stipulations are usually lighter and more flexible than what she must cover in front of maharim.
  3. In front of strange men. There are two opinions concerning what she must cover:
    i.  Her entire body, including her face and hands.
    ii. Her entire body, excluding her face and hands.
  4. During salah it is agreed upon that she must cover everything excluding her hands and face.(2)

Now that we’ve covered the guidelines for each gender, we’d like to cover two other guidelines that encompass both genders, prescribed to us by the Eternal Law Giver, namely:

  1. Imitating the disbelievers and
  2. Men imitating women and vice versa

Concerning imitating the disbelievers, then this is a wide description that some use to apply to many aspects of life that are in actuality inapplicable. In order to define this guideline, we need to understand what the Messenger of Allah – salalahu alaihi wa salam – intended by it and how we can implement it in our lives.

Some claim that wearing (what are commonly known as [Western]) pants fall under this category. Unfortunately, this cannot be further from the truth, for if this was truly the case, then underwear would also be impermissible, but we have yet to find anyone who makes this claim.

The point of semblance that we have been warned from is imitating them in their dress that is specific to their religion, is a symbol in their religion, or the dress for a religious event or events. Common examples include: a priest’s uniform, a Jewish yamaka, a cross, a Buddhist robe, a Sikh turban, etc.

Concerning imitation of the opposite gender, then the guideline here is that it be something specific to that gender within that particular culture, and Allah knows best.

Other guidelines, in addition to the previously mentioned ones, come as to how our dress should be in:

  1. Length – for men it should not pass their ankles (being the most correct opinion), for women there is no such prohibition
  2. Constriction – in general, the clothing should be loose, especially during the prayer
  3. Flamboyance – it should not be something that is particularly strange to that culture as to draw unwanted attention
  4. Surroundings – if the government is oppressive toward a particular type of dress it should be avoided as to prevent harm to an individual or his family as long as the clothing is permissible
  5. Status – if a person is a member of the clergy, or a caller to Islam, he should wear that which will help identify him to Islam
  6. Content – it is a style in some cultures to have statements or pictures on certain parts of the clothing. These should be in accordance to that which the tolerant Sharia dictates (i.e. shouldn’t be lewd, obscene, offensive, pictures of that which has a soul, etc.)

And other than this. We did not make this list in order to limit these guidelines to a set number, but as an example as to what they should be like.

And Allah surely knows best.

Abu Sahl Farhan ibn Irfan Siddiqi
Makkah al Mukarramah
27/7/1435 H


  1. This is what is defined in Islam as the ‘Urf, or the customs of the people, and this is an example of the comprehensive nature of the religion and how it can fit and mold into any time and place. In order to clarify the above guidelines, we’d like to provide some practical examples of how each culture views what can and cannot be exposed:
    i. During breastfeeding:
    – In many Pakistani families a woman will excuse herself and feed in private, while in some Ethiopian families a woman will openly feed in front of other women
    – in some families a woman will not feed in front of her maharim, while in some families she will, and this is considered acceptable
    – within families of the same culture, you will find that while a woman is breastfeeding she will wear shirts that she must lift up in order to feed, so that her upper chest remains covered, while other women do not take such precautions
    ii. Casual dress
    – in classical Indo-Pak culture a woman would not bare her shoulders in front of other women, while in some modern Arab cultures tube tops and spaghetti strap shirts are considered totally acceptable
    – in classical Indo-Pak culture a woman would not show cleavage in front of other women, while in some modern Arab cultures it is totally acceptable
    – within Indo-Pak culture you find families that will allow a woman to expose her back and midriff, while others will not
    – in classical Arab cultures you will not finding women wearing pants, more of a gown-type dress, whereas in Indo-Pak culture, their outfits are exclusively two-piece, consisting of a top and salwaar.
    iii. Swimming
    – some cultures allow one piece swimming suits, while some allow tights, while others are even more reserved and wear t-shirts and long pants
    – some cultures allow women to swim with mahaarim other than the husband, while others find it unacceptable
    I have brought these examples for clarification, and not to deem one way more correct than the other, just to show the practical differences between diverse cultures, all of them ascribing to the same wonderful religion.
    I would like to point out that I have yet to find an Islamic culture that openly allows a woman to bare her chest in front of others, and inshaa Allah we will not, and to Allah all praise is due.
  2. For those that hold the opinion that she must cover her hands and face in front of strange men, they say that if she fears being seen by strange men, then she is allowed to cover them during the prayer.

Beautify Yourself!!!

It has been reported by Ibn Mas’ood, radi Allahu anhu, that the messenger of Allah, salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam, said, “Oh Allah, you have beautified my outward appearance, so beautify my character”.[1]

عن ابن مسعود رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم “اللهم أحسنت خلقي, فحسن خلقي” رواه أحمد و صححه ابن حبان

We’ve mentioned that mankind has two images; the first image is his physical appearance and the other image is his internal moral fiber (character).  From the people, there are those who have a beautiful physical appearance and beautiful character.  This person is similar to the messenger of Allah, salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam, and others (from the Muslims) whom Allah has blessed to have these two descriptions.  Likewise, there are some people who may not have an attractive physical appearance coupled with terrible character.  They are the most despicable of the people.

Also, there are people who are not physically attractive; however their internal moral fiber or character is exceptional.  (In this case), the mere fact that this individual is not good-looking doesn’t affect him, as long as he emanates good.  The opposite is also true.  There are those that are good-looking, yet their character is appalling!  Individuals like this are similar to hypocrites and Allah’s refuge is sought!  (This type of individual) is disgusting!

The messenger of Allah’s, salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam, prayer consisted of two things.  The first thing was having a beautiful attractive appearance and (the second was) having beautiful character.  The messenger of Allah, salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam, said “Oh Allah, you have beautified my outward appearance so beautify my character”.  The messenger of Allah, salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam, was the most complete human being when it came to having a beautiful appearance and beautiful character.  This is following the messenger of Allah, salla Allah alayhe wa sallam.  A Muslim should make this du’a and he doesn’t say “I am not in need. I am already good-looking and I have good character, I don’t have a problem with this” rather a Muslim should seek assistance from Allah that He, The Most High, beautifies his physical appearance and his character.  Allah knows best…[2]

[1] Imaam Ahmad 1/403  authenticated by Ibn Hibbaan #959 (Saheeh Ibn Hibbaan)

[2] “Tas’heel Al-Almaam be Fiqh Ahadeeth min Buloog al-Maraam” by Shaykh Saalih Al-Fawzaan

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Islamic Etiquettes in Business Transactions

Bismillah ar rahman ar raheem, alhamdulillahi rabil alameen, wa salatu wa salam ala nabiyyina Muhammad, wa ala alahi wa ashabihi ajmaeen, ama b’ad;

In this day and age we find people confusing the religiousness of an individual with his business morals, and this is a great shortcoming. While a person may have some knowledge of the religion, or an outward appearance of religiousness, this does not necessitate that he will deal with you in a correct manner when it comes to business and this is for a number of reasons.


  1. Ignorance, and this is usually from both parties – So a person of religion may have knowledge of religious issues such as prayer and fasting, but is usually ignorant of business transactions and etiquette. Conversely, a businessman may be totally ignorant of religious affairs, including Islamic business transactions, but he will have knowledge of general business etiquette, which, for the most part, have been taken from Islam.
  2. Lack of understanding – So when a person deals with another he should keep in mind that person’s background and culture. Some people have an eastern background, another western, and some mixed, not to mention different social statuses. Patience is a highly praised attribute in the Quran and the Sunnah, and with due reason.
  3. Lack of sincerity – And due to money being involved, this is from the biggest difficulties to overcome. This really requires a lot of dua and a constant questioning of oneself as to why one is doing the act they are and for what reason.

So before we go into a business dealing with anyone (even a relative or close friend), references are extremely important, and something the tolerant Islamic law highly recommends us to request. This is an aspect of true reliance on Allah aza wa jal, and I ask Allah to make us from those that rely on Him in the correct manner.


And Allah knows best.


Abu Sahl Farhan ibn Irfan Siddiqi

Makkah al Mukarramah

4/3/1434 H

The Characteristics of the Scholars and the Students of Knowledge; Part Two

So the Muslim should always strive to increase in knowledge of Allah, The Most High, always looking for ways to better himself, always looking for ways to please His Lord, The Most High, whom he will have to stand before on Yaum Al-Qiyaamah (The Last Day).  That which follows is a description the scholars of Islam…



4.  Rejecting all forms of Hizbiyyah:

“From the characteristics of the student of knowledge and the people of knowledge is that they are free from every name except for Islam and The Sunnah.  For this reason some of the scholars would criticize a scholar who defends or supports his shaykh whoever he may be, or he supports his math-hab whatever it is, or he supports or defends a group or a certain community, because this is not what knowledge requires from its possessor.  Knowledge requires from you that you aide the creation and aide the Muslims in establishing the religion.  This is the Sunnah of the Messsenger (salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam),  that you make the people love the religion, and that you close off the pathways to opposing the religion.  This is what beneficial knowledge requires from its carriers.

As for the knowledge that consists of aiding a specific math-hab, or group, or community, then this is in opposition to the intended purpose of knowledge, it is in opposition to a righteous intention, and this is not a praiseworthy action.  For this reason some of the people of knowledge have said, and it was shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd, (Rahimahullah), he said in his book “Hilyah Taalib Ilm”, ‘From the characteristics of the students of knowledge, is that you Oh’ student of knowledge don’t enter into the different groups and sects.’  This is because these groups and sects will divert the student of knowledge from the reality of seeking knowledge and lead him to something else (i.e. other than seeking knowledge).  On the other hand if he is protected from that (entering into the different groups), then it is hoped that the method he is following in seeking knowledge will be safeguarded. This is why Allah, The Lofty and Exalted, said, “Say: This is my way; I invite to Allah with sure knowledge, I and whoever follows me” (Surah Yusuf: 108).  Shaykh al-Islam Muhammad ibn Abdul-Wahhab (rahimahullah) said in his book ‘Kitab At-Tawheed’, The statement in the ayah ‘I invite to Allah’ is calling your attention to sincerity for Allah alone, which is in opposition to those who call to their shaykh or to their way.

5.  Benefiting the people in the affairs of the deen and the dunyah:

“And from the characteristics of the scholars is that they are diligent in benefitting the people in their deen as well as their dunyah to the best of their ability.  The scholars are callers to that which is khair (good).  They command the good and forbid the evil, and this is because the correct beneficial knowledge mandates that this message (i.e. Islam) is carried and the inheritors of the prophet Muhammad (salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam) as he (salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam) said, “They don’t leave behind deenars or dirhams (i.e. forms of currency), indeed they leave behind knowledge.  So whoever takes from that knowledge has taken something great”.   The Messenger of Allah (salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam) had many obligations and the people of knowledge have inherited those obligations from giving fataawaa (Islamic rulings), to leading the people in terms of benefitting others and with regards to showing kindness and being merciful to people, and keeping the family ties, and fighting in the path of Allah, and commanding the good and forbidding the evil, and likewise in all aspects of performing good deeds.  The people of knowledge should be the first to perform these deeds, this is because the scholar knows the limits that Allah has revealed to His messenger (salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam) with regards to all of these issues.

Therefore, knowledge in reality is implemented by the student of knowledge calling the person to all that contains good.  Calling to that which contains good doesn’t necessitate that he is on the microphone giving a lecture, or that he gives the Jumuah khutbah, this is not a must.  A person calls to good based on the knowledge he has.  So he begins with himself and those in his household, and those around him who may be ignorant, or those who he travels to visit etc.  He intends to teach the people, but a student of knowledge who has knowledge and he isn’t diligent in benefitting the people!?  This is something that is questionable!  And it isn’t from those praiseworthy characteristics, rather from the praiseworthy characteristics is that he strives for good by helping the Muslims in there deen and in their dunyah, commanding the good and forbidding the evil, and doing anything else that will bring dignity and glory to religion of Allah, The Lofty and Exalted.”

6.  Protecting your heart and tongue:

“From the characteristics of the scholars and the students of knowledge is that their tongues and their hearts are free from everything that is displeasing to Allah, The Lofty and Exalted.

As for the tongue:  Then their tongues only say that which is good.  A student of knowledge that backbites?!  A student of knowledge that is a nammaam (spreads rumors)?!  A student of knowledge who falls into this and that (from committing sins)?!   A student of knowledge who’s tongue isn’t constantly remembering Allah, The Lofty and Exalted?!  If He debates with a person, he displays wicked behavior?!  If he speaks, he speaks evil?!  This is not from the praiseworthy characteristics of the people of knowledge and this is not from that which beneficial knowledge demands from its possessor.  And for this reason Allah, The Lofty and Exalted, said, “And say to My slaves that they should (only) say those words that are the best.  (Because) Indeed Shaytaan sows a state of conflict and disagreement among them” (Surah Al-Israa: 53).  This is where patience enters the picture.  Does the scholar or student of knowledge think that he won’t hear things that he dislikes?  It is a must that he will hear these things throughout his lifetime.  The prophet (salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam) heard things that he disliked and he was harmed!  Did he (salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam) just say to people ‘you are this and you are that’?  This is not correct.  You must divide the people into categories and confront them while exercising patience.  And his tongue should be pure, using good speech, saying a good word and good and evil are not equal even if you are amazed by an abundance of evil.

So from the characteristics of the student of knowledge is that he uses his tongue in the best way possible with regards to the expressions that he uses, in his dealings with people, and when he’s being patient.  Some of the people if they were harmed, you could see it in their faces; but this did not affect them to the point that they would take from a person’s honor (by speaking bad about the person).  It is a must that from amongst the people there will be those that are correct and those that make mistakes, and those that are upon that which is correct and others that aren’t.  But he must be patient with them, teach them, guide them to that which is correct, and his tongue is to be pure.

As for the heart:  The student of knowledge strives within himself to free his heart from any hatred or jealousy for those who have passed away and those who are presently living, except for those legislated exceptions that are allowed in some cases.  (But it’s not appropriate) that he has some negative feelings in his heart, and we seek refuge in Allah from deceiving or having hatred for the believers.”

To be continued insha-Allah…

Taken from Shaykh Saalih ali-Shaykh’s lecture “The Virtue of Knowledge, Learning and the Characteristics and Virtues of the Scholars”

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The Islaamic Manners of Speech; Part Two

8.  Don’t exaggerate in your speech by saying I swear by Allaah I missed you and you are lying. Allah knows you are lying. Limit your speech to, how are you? And it is safer upon us that we are concerned with questions about the religion for example

Are you firm in your religion?

Are you thankful to your lord?

9. Don’t say to anyone who passes by your home (welcome inside) and you are only showing off and don’t really mean it. You don’t have the ability nor does your time allow you to cater to this request. This is lying that is dispraise worthy.

The Messenger of Allaah said in an authentic hadeeth that recorded in Sahih Al- Bukhari :

آية المنافق ثلاثة :إذا حدث كذب, و إذا وعد أخلف, إذا اؤتمن خان

“The signs of the hypocrite are three if he speaks he lies, if he gives a promise he breaks it, and if he is trusted he deceives.”

10. Beware of calling a young child Bandouq (It is an Arabic word that signifies a child that is born out of wedlock).This false allegation is impermissible in Islaam.

By saying this it is an indefinite statement that means his mother committed adultery. And this is a false allegation, and it obligates the Islaamic punishment of flogging. Would you be pleased my dear brother if someone accused your child of being a child born out of wedlock?

Then the Sheikh goes on to mention a hadeeth that is recorded in

At-Tirmithi by Abu Huraira:

إن الرجل ليتكلم بالكلمة لا يرى بها بأسا ,يهوي بها سبعين خريفا في النار

“Verily a man will speak with a word, not seeing it to be a problem; he will reside in the hell fire along with this word for seventy autumn seasons.”

11. Try to speak Arabic because it is the language of the Quraan, the language of the people of Paradise. If possible refrain from speaking colloquial Arabic.

12. If you speak limit your speech, and don’t dominate the conversation with only your speech. Don’t be deceived by the listeners’ patience with your long boring speech, because many people who maybe nodding to your speech are only nodding to please you, show respect, out of having good manners ,or just wanting you to finish your gibberish; so they can rest their ears, and profit from their time. And about this the Messenger of Allaah peace be upon him has mentioned in a hadeeth that has been collected by Sheikh Al- Abani and he has graded it Hasan (good):

المؤمن يألف ويولف, ولا خير فيمن لا يألف ولا ولا يِؤلف, وخير الناس أنفعهم للناس

“The Muslim is the one who likes to bring people together, and he likes to congregate with the people. And there is no good in someone who does not like to bring people together nor does he like to congregate with the people. And the best of people are those who are the most beneficial to the people. “

13. If you gather the people in a sitting (Lecture/ Seminar) then make it organized. No one should be speaking until the first person is complete. Then if the first person is complete, then the second person should seek permission before speaking.

14.  If you gather three or more people than it is not permissible for two of the three people to engage in any conversation that the third party cannot hear, nor is it permissible for them to speak in a language that is foreign  (the third party does not understand).

Perhaps the third party will become distressed and may believe that the other two are plotting evil against him.



We ask Allaah to have mercy on the Sheikh Muhammad Jamil Zeno and that he allows the Muslims to benefit from this short treaty on the Islaamic Manners of Speech. Although most of the Muslims may have known or have heard of these afore mentioned mannerisms regarding speech, sadly we don’t find many of the Muslims applying these prophetic etiquettes when they speak. Some of us may have even come across, or have heard some of the Muslims complaining about other Muslims and their ill mannered behaviours while speaking. Even worst,  today we find Muslims who claim; that they are calling to the religion of Allaah and the Sunnah (Prophetic Way) having very bad Mannerisms in speech. They say they are defending the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah (May peace and blessings be upon him). I say, use the previous mentioned Ahadeeth (prophetic narrations) to be your guide when you speak and you may find better results. This was not directed to anyone specific; in fact it is directed to all. By Allaah! my dear brothers and sisters we are suppose to be examples, especially us Students of Knowledge and Duaat (Callers to Islaam and the way of the Prophet).

{ … وجد لهم بالتى هى أحسن …. }

“And debate with them in a way that is best.”

In conclusion we ask Allaah to guide our affairs and make us all from his sincere slaves.

Muhammad Abu Essa

Umm ul Quraa University KSA

June 26, 2011

The Islaamic Manners of Speech; Part One

This excerpt was taken and translated from the book (From the Etiquettes of Islaam). Written by the Noble Shiekh Muhammad Jamil Zeno may Allaah have mercy on him .

The Shiekh started off by saying:

Know my brother Muslim Allaah guided us and you; he created for you your tongues. He taught you the Bayan (Quraan) which is his greatest of favours. So you may profit from it in this life as well as in the hereafter. Be cautious using your tongue in evil because your speech is being recorded, you are responsible for it, and you will be punished because of it.

Allaah the most high have said

{ ما يلفظ من قول إلا لديه رقيب }                   

Nothing is uttered (from mankind) except that there is a watcher over it

Surah Qaaf verse number 18

This is the responsibility of the angels who record everything that they see. They record sound and every word. So we understand this to be the eminence of recordings, so we should correct our speech.   

The messenger of Allaah mentioned in a Hadeeth that has been recorded in At-Tirmithi and authenticated by Albani.

إذا أصبح ابن آدم فإن الاعضاء كلها تكفر اللسان فتقول:اتق الله فينا,فإنما نحن بك, فإن استقمت استقمنا, وإن اعوجت اعوجنا

When the son of Adam awakes all of the body parts submit and then say to the tongue “Fear Allaah with regards to us. Verily we are with you, if you are upright then we are upright, and if you are corrupt then we will be corrupt.

The sheikh then goes on to say; upon you are some etiquettes of speech

1.  Be truthful in your speech, actions and your promises to people and even children; lying is haram (impermissible).

The children recognise lies and they become accustomed to thess lies. From the mistakes of the father is that he lies to his child only to appease him    

Remember the statement of the Messenger of Allaah when he said in a hadeeth authenticated by Al Albani :

اما إنك لو لم تعطه شيا كتبت عليك كذبة  

As for you, if nothing was given to him (the child) then this lie would be written against you.

2.  Don’t mention anything about a person that he dislikes, example (his height, he’s a hypocrite, he’s stingy, or he’s unattractive). Because this is backbiting, this is what Allaah has forbidden in the following Surah Al-Hujarat verse number12:

{ ولا يغتب بعضكم بعضا أيحب احدكم أن يأكل لحم أخيه ميتا فكرهتموه واتقوا الله}

And don’t backbite one another. Would you like to eat the dead flesh of his brother? Never! Except he would hate it! So very fear Allaah.

This is the worst vision for humanity to imagine; that he eats the flesh of his brother because he mentions something about him that he doesn’t like, he describes him in a way that he does not like, even if it’s something true.

The Messenger of Allaah peace be upon him asked in a hadeeth that is reported in Sahih Muslim:

Do you know what is Geebah (backbiting)?”

Companions replied Allaah and his Messenger knows best”

The Messenger peace be upon him said: “It’s to mention something about your brother that he dislikes.”

It was said well what if it is something that you see to be true”

The Messenger peace be upon him replied; “if it is something that you see to be true then verily you have backbitten him, and if it isn’t something true then verily you have slandered him.”

But if he was to lie, dishonouring someone while backbitting him;

This forbiddance is worst then just backbiting, because it was a slander and a lie.

For this reason the Messenger of Allaah said in a hadeeth that has been recorded in Sahih Al-Muslim:

لا يعضه بعضكم بعضا           

Which means: Don’t lie about each other, or do not falsely accuse a person of something.

3. Don’t transmit bad speech about a person to others. This is called Nameemah (what is known in the US as tale carrying). This causes fitnah(trials and tribulations for the Musilms). For this Allaah says in Surah Al –Baqarah 191

{ و الفتنة اشد من القتل}                       

Trials and tribulations are worst then slaughter.

4. Don’t oppress anyone, and don’t overstep the bounds in speaking about others. Verily Allaah does not love those who overstep the bounds. Be cautious about cursing your brothers and arguing with them, because the Messenger has mentioned in a hadeeth that has been reported in both Sahih Al Bukhari and Muslim:

سباب المسلم فسوق و قتاله كفر               

Cursing a Muslim is corruption and fighting him is disbelief.”

And about this the Messenger of Allaah has mentioned in an authentic hadeeth that is narrated in Sahih Al- Bukhari:

المسلم من سلم المسلمون من لسانه ويده         

The Muslim is the one; who the Muslims are safe from his tongue and his hands.”

5. Don’t accustom your tongue to labelling people, cursing people, or with bad speech. Warn and advise your children and your relatives from these bad habits. And if you see a person disbelieving, and cursing the religion then advise him with gentleness.

Request him to seek refuge with Allaah from Shaytaan the accursed, and that he return back to Allaah with repentance. It is safer that he seeks refuge with Allaah from Shaytaan, because Shaytaan is the cause of these problems and arguments between the people. So Shaytaan whispers to them with cursing the religion so that they may be from the wrongdoers.

With that the Messenger of Allaah has mentioned in an authentic hadeeth that is reported in Sahih Al-Muslim:

لا ينبغي لصديق أن يكون لعان             

It is not necessary for the truthful person to be from those who swear.”

And in another hadeeth that is also narrated in Sahih Al-Muslim:

لا يكون اللعانون شفعاء, ولا شهداء يوم القامة

Those who frequent swear will not be intercessors, nor will they be witnesses on the day of Judgement.”

6. Accustom yourself with being calm and moderate throughout your life. Think a lot, talk a little. The Messenger of Allaah stated in a hadeeth that is related in both Sahih Al- Bukhari and Sahih Al-Muslim:

من كان يِِؤمن با الله واليوم الآخر فليقل خيراو ليصمت      

Whoever believes in Allaah and the last day then let him speak with goodness or be silent.”

7. Don’t promise anything to people that you know you can’t fulfil. And this is established in a hadeeth that has been authenticated by Al-Albaani:

إياك وكل ما يعتذر منه                               

I warn you to avoid every thing in where an excuse can be made.”

For completion of this small treaty from Shiekh Muhammad Jamil Zeno please follow up with part 2.

Muhammad Abu Essa

Umm ul Quraa University KSA

May 28, 2011

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The Righteous Versus the Wicked


It has been reported by Abee Moosaa Al-Ash’ari, radi Allahu anu, that the messenger of Allah, salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam, said “The similarity of sitting with the righteous and the wicked, is comparable to (accompanying) a carrier of misk (a beautifully smelling fragrance) or (accompanying) a blacksmith.  The carrier of misk (a satisfyingly smelling aroma) will either give you some of his fragrances (that stimulate the one who catches a whiff), sell it to you or (at the very least) you will smell a pleasant aroma.  As for the blacksmith, he will either burn your garments or (at the very least) you’ll find a repugnant odor!”[1]

An-Nawawi, rahimahullah, said “There is a desirable quality in associating with righteous people, (that possess with them) integrity, decency, piety, knowledge, and good manners. Likewise, there is a prohibition of associating with people of wickedness, innovations (in the religion), (likewise) people who backbite others, people (who are known) to commit a shameful amount of sins, and people with plenty of free time.”[2]

This hadeeth encourages the companionship of the righteous and warns against the companionship of the wicked!  The messenger of Allah, salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam, used these two examples (i.e. the carrier of misk and a blacksmith) in order to clarify (for us) the clear distinction between the two.

The Advantages of Befriending the Righteous

In every conceivable way, you will benefit from accompanying a righteous person.  This is compared to the carrier of misk (carrier of a pleasant aroma).  You will benefit from this person in a number of ways.  From the ways that will aid you are that he (the carrier of misk) will give you some pleasant fragrances, or sell them to you, and at the  very least, the whole time you are in his presence (the carrier of misk) you will be enveloped by his illustrious fragrance thus causing the soul to feel at ease.

The unquestionable advantages that come from associating with the righteous are better than the misk al-athfar![3]  The righteous person will either teach you something that will aid you in your religion and in your worldly life, or give you sincere advice, or counsel you about things that will harm you.  (You will also find him) encouraging you with the obedience of Allah, honoring your parents (Muslim or non-Muslim) and keeping the family ties.  The righteous person will also identify your faults, direct you to have integrity and sound moral fiber (and be a constant adviser on ways to improve).  You will find them (advising with these) things either through speech or actions…

An individual is compelled to be influenced by his companions or his associates.  The souls follow one another; either they will follow each other in goodness or in evil!  At a minimum, by companioning the righteous, you will gain significant advantages that cannot be underestimated, (from them are) the lack of doing evil and committing sins, preserving your companionship, competing with one another in goodness and staying away from wickedness, defending your honor in your presence and your absence.  Your love for this person will benefit you with his du’a for you while you are living and after you pass away.  He will defend you because of his close connection with you and his love for you.  With all of these affairs, a person may not be able to do them by himself.  Likewise, this righteous person will connect you with other righteous people and righteous actions, thus inevitably profiting from your relationship with them.  There are innumerable advantages that are tied in with associating with righteous people.  It is sufficient for an individual to be evaluated by his close companions because they will (generally) have the same religion (belief).

The Disadvantages of Accompanying the Wicked

Wicked companions represent the total opposite of everything that we just mentioned!  These people are brutally wicked in every aspect imaginable to the one who accompanies them or mixes with them.  How many people have been destroyed do their associations with the wicked?!  Nations!!!  How many people did they lead to destruction, some knowingly and others unknowingly?  For this reason, from the best blessings that Allah can give his slave is to bless him with righteous companions!  On the contrary, from the ways that Allah will punish his slave is by testing him with immoral sinful wicked companions!  Righteous companions will enable a person to learn beneficial knowledge, display unparalleled integrity, and perform virtuous actions.  Whereas, evil immoral companions will prohibit their companions of all that was previously mentioned!!!

Allah, The Most High, says in the Qu’ran {The day when the oppressor (wrong doer) will bite his hands, and he will say: “Oh! If, I had only taken the path of the messenger! “Ah! Woe to me, If I had not taken so and so as my close friend! He indeed led me astray from the remembrance of the Qu’ran after it had come to me.  Indeed the shaytaan deserts man in his time of need!}[4] and Allah, The Most High, says, {Be patient with those who call on their lord (your companions that remember their lord with glorification, with prayers and other righteous deeds) morning and in the afternoon, seeking His Face.  Don’t let your eyes overlook them desiring the pomp and glitter of this world.  And do not obey the one whose heart we have made heedless of Our Remembrance, and who follows his own lust and whose deeds have been lost!}.[5] 

At-Tabari, rahimahullah, says in his commentary on this verse, “Allah says to His messenger, salla Allahu alayhe wa sallam, be patient with your companions, who praise Allah in the morning and in the afternoon.  They remember Allah by saying Al-hamdulilah, Subhannah Allah, Laa ilaha ila Allah, and by praying, doing righteous actions, from their obligatory prayers and other than that.  The only thing they desire from their righteousness is (to see) Allah, The Most High’s, face!  They don’t crave anything from this world!”[6]

Ibn Hibban, rahimahullah, says “An intelligent person stays with righteous people and separates himself from the wicked.  This is because loving the righteous is quick and easy and difficult to separate yourself from them.  As it relates to the wicked in terms of loving them, then you can quickly disassociate yourself from them and it’s difficult to find love for them.  Companioning the wicked is accompanied by having evil thoughts about the righteous.  Whoever socializes with the wicked will be grouped along with them.  What is obligatory for an intelligent person is to separate himself from the people of suspicion so that he will not be like them.  And just like righteous companions will benefit you with goodness, likewise, the evils ones will corrupt you with evil!”[7][8]

May Allah bless us all with righteous companions and keep us away from the wicked!

[1] Al-Bukhaaree #5534, Muslim #2628.

[2] Sharh Saheeh Muslim 16/178.

[3] One of the most expensive kinds of fragrances which is extracted from a gazelle.

[4] Al-Furqan: 27-29.

[5] Al-Kahf: 28.

[6] Tafseer At-Tabari 15/145.

[7] Rawdatul Uqalaa’a 99.

[8] Buhjatul Andhaar  be Sharh Jawaameyu al-Akbaar by Shaykh Abdur Rahmaan Saa’di ,rahimahullah.

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The Humbleness of the Scholars- Part 3

Shaykh Muhammad Ali Adam al-Ethiopee (Hafithahullah) explains Saheeh al-Bukhaaree on Friday nights after salaatul Ishaa.  The shaykh’s method of teaching is, he reads the isnaad (Chain of narrators of the hadeeth), mentioning who each person is in the chain, and then he continues to explain the hadeeth.  There usually aren’t any questions from the students during the lesson, unless the shaykh himself asks the students a question.  This particular night while the shaykh was explaining who the narrators were in the isnaad, a person in the crowd all of a sudden interrupted the shaykh in the middle of the class, claiming that one of the narrators in the isnaad was not who the shaykh said he was!!  The masjid was dead silent and all eyes were on the brother who interrupted the shaykh.  The shaykh remained calm, his facial expression didn’t change, and then he immediately corrected the brother and continued on with the lesson. Within less than five minutes the same brother interrupted the shaykh once again with a similar claim (i.e. claiming that one of the narrators in the isnaad was not who the shaykh said he was) the shaykh responded in the same manner and continued on with the lesson. It was an excellent display of control and a prime example of how the scholars are patient when dealing with the people in spur of the moment situations. We ask Allah to protect the shaykh and allow the Muslims to benefit from the knowledge that Allah has blessed him with, ameen.

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The Humbleness of the Scholars- Part 2

In an attempt to memorize the book of Allah some of the students would attend the tahfeeth program (Quran memorization program) on the second floor of the Masjid al-Haram between salaatul Magrib and Ishaa.  Upon leaving the Haram, it was normal to find Shaykh Muhammad al-Banna, and he had reached the age of 90 at the time, on the first floor of the masjid serving tea!  Upon seeing this, a person couldn’t help but to think to himself; ‘Subhanallah a scholar of this caliber standing in the masjid serving tea to the general people!’  This was a normal practice of the shaykh and he would deal with the people with kindness.  Masha-Allah another example of the humility scholars of the Sunnah implementing the knowledge that Allah blessed him with.  We ask Allah to have mercy on the shaykh and to enter him into His paradise, ameen.

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The Humbleness of the Scholars- Part 1

As new students, we wanted to see Shaykh Abdullah Ghudayyan, as he would teach classes in the Haram and give fatatwa during certain times of the year. When we got there ( to the Haram), we were told that he usually sits in a particular chair near the Ka’bah, however, upon our arrival, we saw a man sitting in the chair.  Sometimes, the lay people would just sit in the chairs of the scholars because they were comfortable.  This man was wearing an old thobe with a shimaagh (red and white scarf worn by people in Saudi Arabia) thrown over his head; he looked as if he didn’t have a care in the dunya. Next, we heard him speaking, and answering questions sitting Indian style with his feet in the chair.  We were somewhat surprised, up until that point, we hadn’t seen anyone like him.  Usually the scholars in the Haram, have someone read the questions for them and they would then answer them. However, in his case, he would read and answer his own questions and he didn’t wear the cloak that the scholars in the Haram usually would wear.  Someone asked him a question and he replied “So, basically you want me to give you permission to disobey Allah” he then threw the question aside. This is what we saw from Shaykh Abdullah Ghudayyan (May Allah have mercy on him).

Oh Allah, bless us with humility, ameen!

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